We never really know if someone we’re talking to is completely single. We just have to trust that they are, in the hopes they’re not lying to us. It gets even harder to judge the situation when it’s an online friend since they can be anyone they want to be. This is exactly what happened to this Reddit user. They approached their online friend with the assumption they were single. Eventually, they made plans of meeting up with their online friend for an evening of sharing each other’s company.
Friends don’t immediately tell each other where they live. That takes time. It’s very personal, and for security purposes, it’s kept secret. This internet user shares a time when their internet friend of several years found out where they lived, without them telling them. That’s downright terrifying. They said, “a few days later, I come home from class and see a message on AIM. “Figured out where you live. I’m outside of the dorms at the cafe across the street. Meet me.”
This guy lived on the West Coast, and after finding out where I lived, he makes an unannounced trip across the country, tracked down the building where I lived, and was camped out at the cafe across the street… asking him to meet him. All of this without any head’s up.” Just because they’d been talking in person for a while, that doesn’t mean they wanted to meet in person. Not only that, but the guy had to make a serious trek across the country and then camped out in front of their apartment. When she didn’t immediately respond to him, he sent her a slew of hostile messages, each getting worse than the last. This guy wanted to meet her in person. With every message, she felt more scared.
“More messages came, and each time, they started to get more agitated, more impatient. He started asking for my class schedule so he could meet me outside class, asking where I’d be going, where I usually ate, and what time my dinner schedule was. He started getting weirdly specific about wanting to know about every facet of my life. I was getting full-on stalker vibes. So I lied and told him that I was visiting my sister and that I’d be back over the weekend, and I’d just miss him.
That’s when he said “That’s fine. I can wait.”And he did. Three days later, he’s still there, still messaging me that he’s “Still at the cafe. Waiting.” She ended up deleting her AIM account, creating a new name, and changing her entire online persona. Luckily, she never heard from him again (via Ranker).
It’s all about first impressions. If you’re not cool enough, you can really mess up a relationship. It’s okay to be yourself, but there are some things you don’t do on a first date, like picking your nose. After this girl’s internet friend picked her up at the airport, “he started picking his nose.”
There’s a lot that goes through your mind when you hop into a vehicle with someone you’ve never been alone with and you immediately catch them two knuckles deep in their rostrum. I looked quickly away so that he wouldn’t know I caught him and be embarrassed, if he was just trying to sneak one out before I noticed. If he did notice, he didn’t seem embarrassed, so I relaxed a little. I guessed maybe he was just so confident about himself and our friendship that he’d ascended past caring if I saw him take care of a quick booger.”
She let it pass. Fair enough. But it doesn’t stop there. When she looked back at hime, she caught him wiping his fingers across the dashboard. She said, “this guy spent the entirety of the few hours we were together scooping out boogers and wiping them off on parts of his car or the table or wherever it was that we’d stopped at. I realized I was being transported in a rolling booger shrine and that there was nothing I could touch without needing to wash my hands.” That’s repulsive. There’s nothing more disgusting than feeling like you’re surrounded by a wall of germs, with no way to escape (via Ranker).
Being the third wheel is never fun. It can be tough, especially if it’s with a couple you’ve never met before and are only meeting for the first time, just as this Reddit user experienced. When he finally met his internet friends in person, they ended up ignoring him the whole time. “At first, I put it down to anxiety as I was nervous too. But even after lunch, they were only talking to each other and I felt left out. I even took a sneaky video of them talking to each other and sent it to a friend, who agreed it was odd.”
It’s extremely odd to ignore someone that much. Why would they even bother meeting up with him? It seems pointless. He decided to say goodbye and left, which was probably a good thing. They were hurt by the entire experience. Their friend tried to help them out and asked why they were ignoring him. “They tried to turn it on me saying that I was the quiet one and that I was being rude to them, especially “leaving without saying goodbye”. I blocked them all on the game.” Some things are better left as they are (via Reddit).
It takes a long time to get to know someone. Years, even. This Reddit user finally met up with one of their long-time internet users for a second time. They said, “in the short period I was over there, I watched her physically attack her mom and bust a door. I mean, I was already aware of some home problems but I was not prepared to get caught up in the middle of it immediately.” If she could bust a door on a random day in her friend’s presence, there’s no saying what she could do later on down the road.
That doesn’t sound like a pleasant environment to hang around in, at all. That’s a huge red flag. It’s a good thing they saw this from the get-go, instead of six months down the line when they’re already invested in the friendship (via Reddit).
It’s one thing to talk to someone and then meet someone in real life and feel disappointed, but it’s another thing to drop out of school and move to a completely different place for someone you’ve never even spoken to in real life. There’s something seriously wrong here. This internet user helped their friend move six hours away to meet up with a girl they’d supposedly been talking to online.
They said, “we arrive and it turns out he doesn’t have an apartment lined up. And he found a job posting in his girlfriend’s town, but he hadn’t gotten the job. Or even applied yet. I make a bunch of phone calls and find him a room to rent that will let him move in that day with just first, last, and deposit, even without a job.” At least this person supported their friend and helped them find a place anyway. That shows true friendship. But it gets worse. “Then he breaks down and confesses that he hasn’t met this girl. The nights he spent “video chatting” with her were just him watching her vlog. They’ve never talked. Never texted. Never even emailed. Hell, he’s never even left so much as a comment or “like” on one of her videos. She genuinely didn’t (still doesn’t) know he existed.”
He’d made up their entire relationship in some fantasy world that didn’t exist. “His plan was to hang out at this game shop she talks a lot about until she showed up and somehow create a relationship from that. He thought that they’d meet and she’d fall in love with him and move back to our college town to marry him… all before the next semester began. She bought him a bus ticket back to school, he came back, got more cringe, and they lost touch with him (via Ranker).
This one’s an eye opener, especially to a twelve-year-old. There are creepy guys out there who seem to have zero awareness or boundaries when it comes to age. We’re not sure why, but it happens. These young kids have no way of defending themselves, and if they get themselves into serious trouble, it could end horribly. We just hope that these creeps get caught and leave the youngsters alone. This internet user had a close call with a truck driver who was much older than her. Even though it was creepy, it ended well. She never met this creepy truck driver in person.
She said, “I used to play a war game and I was friends with this other person (a guy). We became good friends and then out of the blue, he asked me to be his girlfriend. He was a truck driver in the US and I was only 12. It freaked me out a lot and I ghosted him. It was a terrifying experience and a real eye-opener for me.” Her intuition was right. Even though this one burned quickly, it was powerful enough to save her from a future encounter and maybe an even more terrifying experience (via Ranker).
Sometimes, there are success stories when it comes to online friends and online dating. Even though it seems rare, it does happen. This internet user met up with an online friend and when they both started families, they’d meet up and all take their kids to the zoo. Eventually, “she wanted us to go on a cruise together, with our husbands and kids. I commented on the effect of “We can’t afford that,” and she went nuts.”
Even though we understand sticking to your budget, we don’t understand someone flipping out about someone else’s budget. It’s rude and uncalled for. She continued and said, “we shouldn’t have had kids if we can’t afford them, we shouldn’t have more children, our life sucks, all because I didn’t want to go on a goddamn cruise with her and her bratty kid. Sounds like a nightmare.” At least they probably dodged a huge bullet. Who knows what would’ve happened on that cruise. It’s better that it ended the way it did, and that their in person friendship didn’t take a turn for the worse during the cruise ship (via Ranker).