
15. Never Real Friends
Mortimerza said, “Throughout school, I was a bit of a loser, didn’t do well in class, and never really cared. I used to go out all the time with my “friends” and would hang out with them all the time. I did a one-year software development course and then got a pretty crappy job making almost nothing in my country. When my wife got pregnant, all my friends basically ghosted me. A few years down the line, I landed a VERY high-paying remote job ($200k+) for an SF-based company. The average salary for a software developer in South Africa is around $30k per year. My wife was very proud of me, I think, and posted a picture of me on her Facebook standing next to the new car that I had just bought.
“I started getting messages from some of my old “friends” saying that it had been a while and they wanted to catch up and really missed me…There was one guy I always had a soft spot for and decided that I would go have dinner with him and see how the last 4 years of his life treated him. We hadn’t even ordered our food yet when he dropped the bomb on me that he felt that I owed him a lot of money for “always being there for me” and that I would be “selfish” to not give him some money as I had so much. I quietly just got up and left. I eventually changed my number and deactivated my social media accounts. However, people still harass my wife and mother to try and get some money out of me.”