6. Set and Defend Your Boundaries
Boundaries are there to protect you. They also let people know what you will and won’t accept. People develop boundaries over the course of their lives. These boundaries change and adapt according to your experiences and needs. You build boundaries as a child to help you form healthy relationships with your parents.
But there are some people who have unhealthy boundaries. These are people who either have too few or too many boundaries. The result is their relationships aren’t functioning or are unhealthy. A person with too many boundaries never lets their guard down. They don’t let people in and are almost incapable of being vulnerable, even around those they love and trust.
These people usually cold, jaded and unfeeling. A person with too few boundaries tends to overshare. They can’t distinguish between private and public information. People who lack boundaries tend to move too quickly in most relationships and wind up terrifying people with their open vulnerability. They become overly emotionally-attached to people.
People who don’t set boundaries also let others take advantage of them due to their inherently trusting nature. And other people don’t know where they draw the line with them. A strong woman knows her boundaries. She knows exactly what she will and won’t accept. What’s more, the people around her are aware of these boundaries.
She will not let people take advantage of her. She will not let people invade her personal space. And she will not let anyone take her for granted. This does not mean she is unfeeling. She expects other people to treat her with the same dignity and respect she shows them.
An alpha woman will let you know where you stand with her. She will be quick to speak up if you push her boundaries or buttons.