4. Avoid Being a Victim
Most people would like to believe that people are inherently good. Whether this is true or not, is still up for debate. But, it is not only bad people who do bad things. This may seem counterintuitive, but good people can do horrible things. They can break a person down, they can devalue them and they can hurt their feelings.
This is the reality of human existence. It is acceptable to feel hurt by another person’s actions. You are not barred from feeling the pain you are going through. No one is expected to immediately get back up as if nothing happened in the first place. There is, however, an element of pain that is under your control.
Although you can’t control other’s actions, you can be the master of your own life and of yourself. By controlling the power other people have over you, you can prevent yourself from becoming a victim. A victim is powerless and at the complete mercy of their attacker. They are not the masters of their environment, either emotional and physical.
Strong women don’t let others put them down. Their validation doesn’t come from external sources, comes from inside themselves. Alpha females allow negative experiences to flow over, not through them. Tough women focus their energy on working through pain and then moving past it, not rehashing it like a treasured memory. Recycled grief and pain holds no allure to them.