5. Blaming Others For Your Misfortunes
One of my former coworkers went to an Ivy League university. With her expensive education, she should have found a great job through alumni networks. But she only made $400 a month and was very upset about it. I asked her why she didn’t quit to find a better position. She kept making excuses and blamed her boss for not recognizing her talent. This woman alluded that she felt if she stayed at the company, some day the boss would realize her talent and give her a promotion. Unfortunately, that never happened. The last I checked, she became a mom and was still in over $100,000 of student loan debt. Essentially, she completely gave up and chose to blame her boss.
If you go through life being angry about your circumstances and blaming other people for your problems, you’re never going to get anywhere. It’s okay to be angry when someone mistreats you. But the best thing to do is to forgive these people, even if they never apologized. Forgive, let it go, and move on with your life. If one company or boss doesn’t recognize your value, move on to the next one. At the end of the day, you’re the only one in control of your destiny. It doesn’t matter what you’ve been through, who your parents are, or where you went to school.