One of my former coworkers went to an Ivy League university. With her expensive education, she should have found a great job through alumni networks. But she only made $400 a month and was very upset about it. I asked her why she didn’t quit to find a better position. She kept making excuses and blamed her boss for not recognizing her talent. This woman alluded that she felt if she stayed at the company, some day the boss would realize her talent and give her a promotion. Unfortunately, that never happened. The last I checked, she became a mom and was still in over $100,000 of student loan debt. Essentially, she completely gave up and chose to blame her boss.
If you go through life being angry about your circumstances and blaming other people for your problems, you’re never going to get anywhere. It’s okay to be angry when someone mistreats you. But the best thing to do is to forgive these people, even if they never apologized. Forgive, let it go, and move on with your life. If one company or boss doesn’t recognize your value, move on to the next one. At the end of the day, you’re the only one in control of your destiny. It doesn’t matter what you’ve been through, who your parents are, or where you went to school.
There are a lot of advice articles out there that will encourage you to take on multiple part-time jobs if you want to be rich. This might help you make more money in the short-term, and it might be a stepping stone in your journey. The only problem with that is that there is a ceiling to how much you can make. As long as you’re working for a boss, you’re not in control of how much income you’re making. You could work until you’re ready to collapse, and still only be making a set amount of income at the end of the day. Unfortunately, hard work doesn’t always equate to wealth.
Don’t get me wrong. You need to work incredibly hard if you want to go from being poor to rich. However, it’s always better to work smarter rather than harder. Truly wealthy people have cracked a code to make their money do the work for them, rather than working for their money.
There are plenty of people out there who hate their job. They love to complain but never do anything to change it. And even when we come out of this on the other end, applying for work is going to be a huge struggle. Many people can’t be picky when it comes to finding work. We can’t deny that money that puts food on the table is important, even if you just like what you’re doing. But if your goal is to become rich, you can’t stay at a job that you hate for the rest of your life.
Try to imagine your dream life. What kind of work are you doing? Depending on how far away you are from that goal, you’ll have to make the right choices accordingly to set your new life in motion. For example, if you wish you could become a doctor, you’ll have to go to medical school first. That job you hate might be necessary in order for you to pay for tuition. As long as you have a game plan on how you’re going to get out of this, you’ll feel a weight lifted off your shoulders. A job that makes you miserable suddenly becomes bearable when you have a goal of exactly when you’re going to leave. You’ll realize that it’s a permanent but necessary step in your journey, rather than a prison sentence.
You should never blame other people for your problems. But sometimes, when people find some level of success, we allow friends and family to take advantage of us. You can’t control what other people do. But at the end of the day, you’re still in control of how you react to other people. The more you give your money away, the less you have to pay off debt, reinvest in growing your wealth.
You need to balance generosity with making sure no one is taking advantage of your kindness. Sometimes, people are doing nothing by dragging you down, and it’s best to cut them out of your life. Remember that you don’t have to buy love. People who truly love you will want you to succeed and will be willing to give as much as they receive.
Sometimes, even if you’re normally a self-motivated person, you need a little bit of a boost. Watching motivational speakers or reading a self-help book can help you get your mind back on track. However, if you feel that you absolutely need to work together with other people before you can achieve anything, it’s not likely that you’ll ever become rich. One of the most common traits among millionaires is that they’re self-motivated. They don’t need a boss to tell them to get up and go back to work. And they don’t need the threat of losing their job to wake them up in the morning. They’re also typically a bit introverted, and they can put their head down and get to work right away.
People who grew up with rich parents have a lot of business ideas, but they always want someone else to get involved. They haven’t actually put in any of the work yet, because they’re waiting for someone to help motivate them to get started. It may be because they feel it’s not worth doing the work unless they can convince someone else to partner with them.
Remember this: Successful people don’t waste their time on ideas. They want to see results first. So if you’re looking for a business partner, you need to work on something you truly believe will be a success. Put in all of the work on your own first, and find outside help later.