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20 Psychological Tips & Tricks To Make Life Easier

TristaJuly 31, 2018
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9. Connect With Your Kids

Every single human being on this planet has the urge to procreate. It may be stronger in some, but it is still there. But it is in your DNA. It is how the human race has survived. Children are necessary to ensure the survival of the species, yet some don’t like them. People with children generally respond to this dislike by saying others will understand when they have children. However, how do you deal with the whining, screaming, and general demands? How do you make it through the day when you have no idea how to deal with kids, let alone communicate with them?

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Apparently, the winning formula is to treat kids like drowsy adults. It is something most people are familiar with. Imagine being up all night unable to sleep. The next day, you seem to move in slow motion. Everything seems to take an extra effort. Dealing with kids is where that experience comes in handy. So, the next time you are among children, pretend you are dealing with someone who has had a sleepless night. Speak slowly and use small sentences. Kids are still learning their conversational skills, so keep it simple. They are also unsteady on their feet at a young age so give them a hand. Kids also tend to wander off, so make sure you watch them always.

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8. Make Your Candles Last Longer

Is the romance gone? Gone are the days when gentlemen would court their loves or knights would ask their darling for a token before they charged off into battle. These days, a person is lucky if they get a phone call. Text messages have replaced sweetly worded letters. Kisses and hand-holding have been pushed aside by emojis. Instead of observing a man’s actions to see if he cares, most women check to see if he replied quickly enough or if he liked the latest picture on Instagram. That is not a time for romance, but why should you be the rule? Why not be the exception and bring the romance back. Relationships have become increasingly shorter. Apps like Tinder and Plenty of Fish have made it easy to meet the next person.

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People don’t take the time to get to know each other. Furthermore, if you are in a relationship, then chances are, you don’t make enough time for each other. Here’s a thought: set aside an evening for a little bit of romance. Everyone deserves to love and to feel wanted. By dedicating your time to your partner, you will remind them how much you love them. Pick out some music, cook up their favorite meal, or order from their favorite restaurant. Moreover, don’t forget to light the candles. However, you can make the romance last longer by placing your candles in the freezer for a few hours before you burn them.

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7. Use Music To Feel Happy and Relaxed

How dull would the world be without music? Trends may rise and fall. However, there is one thing that will remain constant: people love music. Gone are the days when there was just one radio or record player in the house. Most people now have some sort of music device in every room. You can carry our music around and listen to it no matter where we go. There is no need to take a guitar when camping because you can bring a Bluetooth speaker. Music will always be a part of life, but there will also always be the question of taste. 

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People do not like the same music. It is as simple as that. The argument as to which genre is superior will rage for centuries. However, music will survive. The festivals, concerts, and even the gigs at those smoky dive bars will continue to draw music fans. Parents may shake their heads in concern when they hear the new brand of devil’s music their children enjoy. Nevertheless, maybe these same people should step back for a second and consider this little piece of information. When a person listens to the music they enjoy at loud volumes, they feel happier. Music has the power to boost one’s mood. It can even relax the listener and make them feel a sensation of calmness.

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6. Write Out Your Cares

We all suffer from stress and anxiety from time to time. It’s inevitable in today’s hectic world. Most of us also tend to struggle with what to do when these painful thoughts occur. Vent to a friend? Schedule a therapy appointment? While the therapy appointment may be ideal if you can afford it, there is also a simple, inexpensive remedy for stress and anxious thoughts that can easily be done at home. Creative people who are in touch with their emotions have been practicing this for decades, so give it a shot! The next time you feel anxious or stressed, write those feelings on paper.

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It can be as simple as a sticky note or as elaborate as a fancy, customized bullet journal, but the only thing that truly matters is physically writing out what is ailing your mind. The act of physically writing out one’s cares can be incredibly cathartic in and of itself, and seeing the stresses in black and white (or whatever color ink you prefer) on the page can lead to them seem much smaller and more manageable. Keep your written-out thoughts dated and organized, and check back on them occasionally to see if any of the worries are persistent and need to be addressed further.

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5. Limit Your Choices

One of the most fun things about being an adult is that sometimes your options can feel endless. You have the time, ability, and hopefully finances to do many of the things your heart would desire, within reason. However, that very openness of opportunity can sometimes lead to being struck with indecision. Using board game terms, this is called analysis paralysis, when the weight of having countless options causes you to freeze up and be unable to make any decision. For people with a long list of books to read, Netflix series to watch, or hobbies to practice, the number of choices can prevent anything from getting done at all.

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If you routinely find yourself paralyzed by the tyranny of choice from among your many interests or options, limiting the number of items you can choose from to a small, manageable number can make all the difference. Parents often do this with children for school-day outfits, giving only two or three appropriate choices so the child can have a say and not get overwhelmed. This concept still definitely can apply to adults, and whittling down a list of video games you’d like to play or things you’d like to draw to a manageable list of three to five can help you from becoming overwhelmed and just scrolling Facebook all day instead.

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4. Mind Your Posture

If you’re having a tough day at work and feel like the weight of the world is dragging you down, it’s easy to slouch down into a posture that matches the weight on your mind. Unfortunately, bad posture can exacerbate a bad emotional state by causing back pain, decreasing blood flow, and more. Over time, poor posture, especially at work, can cause long-term spinal problems and chronic back and joint pain. Always slouching can also lead to a self-fulfilling cycle of feeling burdened and run-down. An easy way to perk yourself up throughout the day is to remind yourself to check in on your posture and fix it up.

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Try making a schedule to check in with yourself on your posture every so often, be it every half hour or just once after lunch. The timing doesn’t matter, so choose whatever you know you can maintain and turn into a routine habit—trying sitting up comfortably straight and lowering your shoulders. Tensed-up, high shoulders are a common cause of tension headaches from computer use. Set your feet flat on the floor directly under your knees, and get a raiser if you can’t reach. Make sure your keyboard is at a comfortable height and your wrists aren’t flexed up or down. Try maintaining that upright, confident posture for at least a few minutes.

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3. Always Ask Questions

Most people are reasonably good at talking about themselves and their interests. Where many of us have some shortcomings is engaging with other people about their interests. One of the best changes you can make to be more likable and engaging is to develop the skill of asking good questions in a conversation. Everyone can do the usual “so where do you work” sort of chit-chat, but asking a fun, exciting question that lets someone brag a little or talk about themselves and their interests is a great way to make someone feel unique and valued. Asking questions also allows you to get to know others better.

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Asking questions can also be a valuable skill in job interviews and beyond. Many people neglect to ask any meaningful questions at the end of a job interview, making a candidate seem unprepared or uninterested in the position. To set yourself apart, you can ask questions about how the place you’re applying for came to be open, how the company’s growth is going. More to show that you’re interested in the company and already thinking about how you would integrate yourself into the role. People who ask thoughtful, engaging questions in meetings also tend to stand out, as most people zone out and don’t participate.

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2. Make Wednesday Fun

While Mondays likely have the worst reputation, thanks in part to songs like “Manic Monday” and Office Space’s “case of the Mondays,” it isn’t the only challenging day of the week. Wednesday, or hump day, is another challenge since you have already been working for a couple of days and still have a couple left before the weekend’s relaxation. Wednesday can be a real burn-out day, and Wednesday night, in particular, can feel like a chore since you’re still so far from the weekend. If you find yourself feeling down on Wednesdays, try planning something fun for your Wednesdays to make hump day a day to look forward to.

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Maybe you’ll decide to treat yourself to a Dunkin Donuts or Starbucks breakfast on the way to work on Wednesday. Perhaps a date night with your spouse sounds in order, or a craft and wine night with your friends. A nice, hot bath with a good book might be perfect for some. Whatever the routine, as long as you make sure you always have something fun and relaxing penciled in for Wednesdays, it can make sure your week seems much shorter and more enjoyable. Having a little something to look forward to mid-week can provide much motivation to fight those mid-week blues.

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1. Decode Your Friend’s Body Language

It is a question people often ask themselves: Do they like me, or are they just being nice? You may spend hours mulling over this question with your friends. You may also consult every piece of literature, take quizzes and devour all the how-to guides out there. However, it’s not that complicated. If your friends or co-workers like you, it will be obvious. Why waste your emotions on people who were just not that into you? If you are like most people, you want signs to be sure one way or the other. Body language may be your best bet for figuring this out.

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There are no golden rules on these things, but body language may provide a few answers to someone’s emotional state. When you’re talking to someone, and they cross their arms or legs, they are shutting you off or even feeling defensive. They are not in an open frame of mind and possibly don’t like you. If a person adopts an open, relaxed and welcoming pose, they are receptive to you and probably like you. Hopefully, these 20 psychological tips and tricks to make your life easier will help. Try one a day for a month and see if your life has changed for the better.

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