15 Signs Of Highly Toxic People

By Simi
15 Signs Of Highly Toxic People

How do you define evil? Each religion has their own definition, along with various ways to spot and counteract these negative forces. Evil and evil characters even appear in books and movies. These individuals possess great power and use it not to help people, but rather to harm them.

Evil people are in the business of using force to amass even more power. And they do it by striking down anyone who stands in their way. Fiction depicts evil people to make it easy to distinguish between them and the good protagonists. Their darkness and degeneration of spirit are not up for debate. Instead, it is there for everyone to see.

But in reality, evil people are not easy to spot. They do not reveal their motives beforehand because they want to avoid detection. They are masters of disguise and blend into a canvas of people without any difficulty. These evil people are not like the people from the stories. They do not have plans for world domination or destruction.

What makes them evil is their distinct lack of empathy for other people. This is not to say that they are sociopaths or psychopaths. Rather, they use and betray people. And they do it without caring how a person is hurt in the process. Here are some ways to spot evil people who do not have your best intentions at heart.

1. They Don’t Share the Whole Story of Their Lives

The best way to conceal one’s motives and overriding character is to keep people in the dark. The same is true for evil people. They may spend oodles of time getting to know every aspect of your life. But you will never know everything about them. The focus will always be on you and not them.

This is because the more they know about you, the more they will be able to control and manipulate you. Once a person is aware of your background, personality, and desires, it is easy to hurt and use you. This is because negative people now know where your pressure points are. They know where your insecurities lie and where they originate from, too. They know how to hit you where it hurts the most.

Once in that vulnerable state, you will be at their mercy. Knowledge is power, and evil people will never relinquish that power. They will not even the playing field by divulging as much to you as you did to them. Instead, they will safely guard their true story. They may even fabricate an entirely new life altogether and deliver it to you on a silver platter.

What’s more, they will not tell everyone the same story. Each person will likely get a different version. This will leave acquaintances of these evil people thinking they must be living a double life because things do not add up.  A true connection with a person is through vulnerability.

It is through this vulnerability how you learn about a person and begin to care about them. An evil person does not want you to learn about them. They do not want you to know them because they want full control.

2. They are Only Around for the Good Times

Life is not a straight road. It is filled with potholes, twists and turns, cliffhangers and parts under construction as well as a couple of smooth surfaces here and there. However, you are not left to travel this road alone. Often, our friends and loved ones can help. These people are there to fix a spare tire when it has gone flying off.

They will wake up at ridiculous hours of the morning to bring you gas when you have run out. They will drive with you cautiously around that particularly tricky bend. And they will speed with you down that wonderfully smooth stretch that feels like it will go on forever. But people are not there to battle every obstacle for you. Rather, they are there in a supporting role.

They remind you that you are not alone and you have the skills to cope with the curveballs thrown at you. Their aid can be in the form of advice or even just a listening ear or a hand to hold. This is the mark of a true loved one. These people do not disappear when things go sour or turn dark. They stand strong and persevere with you.

An evil person does no such thing. They do not care about you and will disappear when you can no longer give them what you usually do. When you have money, they will be around. When you do not require any kind of effort, they will be around.

But, as soon as things start looking a bit tough, they disappear. Be it emotional turmoil or financial difficulties, they will slink away into the night. You will only hear from them when things are on the up with you again.

3. They Constantly Shirk Responsibility

Cause and effect governs the world you live in. Every action, no matter how big or small, has some consequence. This is an inescapable law of the universe. As a sentient being, and an adult, you must take responsibility for your actions. You are taught from a young age, if you make a mistake, it is your responsibility.

And if you make the wrong choice, you must live with the consequences. It is by taking responsibility for your actions that you learn. This is how people evolve. When a person takes on the full weight of a mistake or a lapse in judgment, they realize they have to change in some way. Maybe they need to re-evaluate how they make decisions or how they manage their impulses.

They might even have to do some introspection on their character or personality. They may be wonder if they are too judgmental, temperamental or selfish. After all, you are only given this one life. You only have one chance to live the best possible life and be the best possible person you can be. This means you must ask the hard questions. At times, you have to accept blame or fault.

Once you do that, you must work through the process of fine-tuning your character and worldview. At least, this is what a good person does. But a person who does not accept responsibility for their actions is not a good person. These people not only don’t take responsibility, they will also try to shift the blame. They will accuse others of being at fault or deny there is a problem altogether.

4. They Lie All the Time

Do absolute truths exist? People have their own realities. These realities differ in size and general composition. They are dependent on the person and the environment they grew up in, too. The unfortunate fact is that you will never know any other perspective but your own. So, you will therefore also only ever know your own reality.

You can always try to be more open to other people’s perspectives, opinions and ideas. This helps improve the scope of your reality. But, it will always be specific to the individual. The consequence is that the truth may be different to different people. While it is nice to think that the truth is objective, it is not.

It is subjective and tainted by a multitude of factors specific to each person. This line of thought might suggest that lies do not exist. It may suggest that people are merely acting on and talking about their own realities. But there is a dividing line here.

Lies do exist, but they do not depend on the person who is receiving them, but rather on the person who is doing the lying. If the aim is to conceal or deceive, then it is a lie. An argument about perspectives and realities cannot be made here. The person is lying, plain and simple.

Not only do lies exist, but everyone tells them. Lies happen every day. But the distinction between evil people is that they lie compulsively, and for sport. They lie because they can. Evil people lie about big things and little things alike. There is no getting to the truth with these people as they will simply tell more lies to cover up the initial lie.

5. They Never Relinquish Control

There are two types of people in this world. Some people believe the world is ordered and they have some element of control over it. And then there are people who believe that chaos governs the world. The former of these people live their lives in a set way. They have been brought up to believe that if one acts in a certain way and does a certain set of things, then things will turn out well for them.

They think this philosophy drives every person and everything is explainable to some degree. But the latter of these people live in a completely different world. They see the world as being far more jumbled and chaotic. They do not believe there is a set, clear way to live one’s life. Furthermore, they do not see people as predictable creatures.

While these two groups of people may have wildly different philosophies on life, they both seek some level of control. Neither one of them let things fall haphazardly where they may. Each may have a different method of control. But every single one of them try to exact varying degrees of control over their environment. This is human nature.

Then there are evil people. These people are total control freaks. They seek to control everything and everyone. Evil individuals do this because it gives them power and because they believe it is their right. They see themselves as being better than others, and therefore they are entitled to use and control others to accomplish their means.

6. They Demand Your Time

Life is a balancing act. You are only given 24 hours each day to accomplish all that you set out to do. Each person divides their time in their own unique way in accordance with how they value things. A person who values sleep may ensure that they are getting adequate rest. One who is focused on success will dedicate far more time to their work than to anything else.

But those who work to enjoy their lives will make sure that there is a balance between work and play. Every single one of us is forced to do this juggling act between what we want and what we need to do. Because time is so important, people tend to surround themselves with people who value the same things. This is an attempt to avoid conflict.

A work-orientated person does not want to be nagged about working too much. They want their loved ones to accept and admire the fact they are dedicated to their work. A person who values experiences does not want to be hear they lack ambition or focus. But while your loved ones may not always agree with the way you utilize your time, they do not go out of their way to waste it, either.

Your loved ones do not demand your attention when they know you are needed elsewhere. An evil person differs in this regard. They do not value what you value, and they do not care about your success or happiness. Instead, they demand your time and attention whenever they see fit, regardless of how inconvenient it may be for you.

7. They are Well-Versed Manipulators

People are all quick to mouth off about manipulation, but can you come up with a definition? In the broadest sense, manipulation entails coercing a person into doing or feeling something they otherwise would not. Manipulators do this without the person’s knowledge. Instead, the victim of manipulation wonders why they are doing something out of character or feeling in such a way that doesn’t quite make sense.

There are two damaging results of manipulation. The first is the direct result of the manipulation. A person may have been coerced into doing something without having all the information. Therefore, they are not aware of the consequences. In the case of emotional manipulation, people will feel a multitude of damaging emotions the manipulator purposefully plants.

The second damaging result is when a manipulator robs a person of their free will. Free will does exist, and it is quite a heinous crime to take that away from a person. Each individual should have the right to make their own decisions. You should be able to act how you feel fit and you do not deserve to have someone toy with your emotions for amusement.

An evil person is an incredibly skilled manipulator. They can make you feel whatever they desire. They can make people act in unconventional ways. Also, the manipulated individual may even trade their viewpoint of themselves with the viewpoint of the manipulator. An evil person can easily breaks down your sense of self and even your moral core.

8. They Never Apologize

How often to do people dole out sincere apologies? You may have received an apology before but was that person genuinely sorry? Or, were they trying to dispose of the situation as quickly as possible? A heartfelt apology requires how and why things went wrong. To deliver this apology sincerely, a person needs to be fully aware of the hurt they have inflicted.

Once they reach this awareness, they are required to feel remorse. Remorse entails feeling guilty for the hurt and harm they imposed on another human being. True remorse is surprisingly hard to come by. There are two things that stand in the way of these sincere apologies. The first being that people do not have a similar range of emotions.

Each person has a different tolerance and threshold to emotional pain. While one person may be truly hurt by a certain action, there are 10 other people who wouldn’t be phased. So, if a person would not be hurt themselves by their own actions, then the chances are they are not likely to feel remorse when their actions wind up hurting others.

The second thing is that it takes a large amount of courage and character strength to admit fault. People do not like to think or admit that they have made mistakes. They do not like to recognize the error in their judgment or ways. An evil person, on the other hand, will never apologize.

Guilt is an entirely foreign emotion to evil individuals. They do not care if they have caused another person harm. Therefore will not apologize for it.

9. Their Reality is Completely Different

People are different. This may sound like an incredibly weak statement, but there is truth in its simplicity. People are always saying that everyone is different and entitled to their own opinion. But, what does this mean? People are different because they all see the world differently. Everyone has varying opinions on how they believe the world works and how it should work.

People also have their own version of what is right and what is wrong. There is, unfortunately, no real moral benchmark on this planet. Different religious institutions and spiritual paths may try to define their own benchmarks. So, while in isolation this rings true, things can get incredibly confusing when held alongside others.

The culmination of all this individuality is that each person has their own reality. They only know the world through their eyes, and therefore the only reality that is relevant is their own. An evil person cannot possibly be excluded from this. They too have their own reality. There is, however, a slight deviation from the norm with these people.

To evil people, there is no argument between right and wrong. They do not even feel the need to make the distinction. They live in a reality where they simply do whatever they want. Their wants and desires are all that is relevant. So the impact on other people does not even factor into the equation.

A reality such as this is not born of a clash of ideology or upbringing. It arises from a prevailing belief that the person is more important than anyone else. They believe their desires and opinions are the only possible things that could ever matter.

10. They Make You Feel Kind of Off

Human beings are specifically designed for survival. For thousands of years, they have evolved in specific ways with the sole aim being to ensure the survival of the human species. This evolution can be physical in nature, but the more interesting systems lie beneath the surface. This includes the fight or flight reaction. This is a layman’s term for the action of the sympathetic nervous system that powers up when a person is in danger.

When this system activates, there is a multitude of physiological changes that take place. The aim is to provide the person with the energy and capabilities to either fight their attacker or flee to safety. Scientists have studied this physical response, so it is scientific fact. There is, however, another kind of defense mechanism that human beings have.

Science doesn’t fully understand this one. So, it is hard to explain in as much detail. This mechanism is obviously a person’s instinct. Call it a person’s gut or even their intuition, but the implication is the same. People all have something inside that subtly alerts them when there is something amiss.

This could be a place that is just not quite right. This place may not seem inherently dangerous, but you can tell there is something wrong with it. You may even feel that you should not be in this place. And the same is true for most people.

You may just tell that there is something wrong with an evil person. When you are around them, you do not quite feel like yourself. Maybe you feel on edge, nervous or even in danger. This is a clear sign of evil or toxic person. And it is a sign that you should never ignore.

11. They are Cruel

The previous points have dealt mainly with subtle signs. They have highlighted subversive ways that evil people hurt and manipulate others. However, there are certain obvious ways to spot an evil person. And one of them is being cruel.

People make mistakes. This is a simple, real fact about life. You may say things you do not mean and do things you shouldn’t do. In the heat of the argument, everyone is guilty of hurting the people they love. You may even do this knowingly out of overwhelming feelings of hurt and anger you feel at the moment. And when you are hurt, you may lash out at those around you.

You may even intentionally try to hurt those that hurt you. Perhaps you want them to feel your pain or to know how much they affect you. This is human nature. Another aspect of human nature is that most people do not like doing this. In your heart, you may not want to hurt people. And you probably do not want to be the source of their pain.

And if you are unfortunate enough to harm a loved one, then you may feel guilty about it. You may even try to repair the situation. But an evil, toxic person does none of these things. They are intentionally cruel. They derive pleasure in hurting others and do not feel any remorse once they finish the act.

These people can hurt others either by displaying physical violence of by being emotionally abusive. They often mirror their inner hurt, and for that, they deserve some sympathy. But, others should not have to suffer because of their inner torment.

12. Your Friends and Family Don’t Like Them

Your loved ones play a vital part of your life. They are there to help, to love and to advise. These people will always have your best intentions at heart. They do not want to see you used, abused or hurt. They want you to live your best possible life. These people do not want to see you fail, either.

They rejoice in your successes and will comfort you during your loss. However, they can be quite annoying at times. And this may make you far less inclined to listen to their advice and insights. One of the key dangers when dealing with evil people is they are able to place you under their control. They use their vast arsenal of manipulation and lies to make you completely submissive to them.

Toxic people set themselves up so people value themselves according to their standards. They create a cycle where they break people down and then build them up, which fosters dependency. All of this means that people are blind to their true character. Victims of toxic people cannot tell what they are doing to them. They cannot see how the evil person is abusing them.

Loved ones do not suffer from the same delusions as the victims. They can see what the evil individual is doing to their loved ones. And they are generally quite vocal about it. If your friends and family are saying this person is bad news, it may be time to take a step back and evaluate what they are saying.

These are people you trust and love. You know they care about you and you should, therefore, considering heeding their advice. They may well be seeing something that you are blind to.

13. They Breed Confusion and Conflict

In general, people do not like conflict. Some people are more confrontational than others, but at heart, even these people do not like fighting. No one enjoys being angry and hurt. It is exhausting. Being involved in a fight, be it physical or emotional, leaves a person completely drained.

It batters the heart, mind, spirit and even the body. Conflict robs a person of their peace of mind. It also inhibits them from performing the simplest of tasks without being distracted by the current conflict. A person who is wrapped up in conflict is a vulnerable person. Their defenses are down because they do not have the strength to protect themselves from another onslaught. These same people could be quite formidable at their best.

But during these times, they are particularly vulnerable to manipulation. They are primed to become a toxic person’s plaything. It is for this reason that evil people breed conflict. They sustain an environment that is fully shrouded in conflict and confusion. This breeds dependency and fosters control.

An evil person wants to keep you at your worst. They do not want you returning to full strength as this will signal you do not need them anymore. When you are strong, they cannot control you, and they cannot let that happen. A person that leaves you feeling battered and confused is not someone you want to be around.

You need people in your life that build you up, not break you down. Avoid people who breed conflict at all costs. They do not have good intentions. They are not good people. In fact, they thrive on emotionally wrecking good people. This makes them feel powerful and in control.

14. They Don’t Respect Boundaries

Boundaries dictate how you interact with people. You form them while growing up and then use them later in life. According to psychologists, there are healthy boundaries and unhealthy boundaries. A person will have one of the two, depending on how they were brought up and the relationship they had with their parents.

A parent is a caregiver. They are the ones that teach, provide and nurture you. Therefore, you have to able to depend on these people when you need them. A person who has had this kind of interaction with their parents probably has healthy boundaries. These boundaries will ensure that a person does not share too much about themselves too quickly.

These people will be able to trust others appropriately and foster relationships that are neither too detached nor too dependent. Unhealthy boundaries, on the other hand, produce the exact opposite effect. These people do not trust people appropriately. They either trust too quickly or not at all. The same goes for sharing.

They either reveal too much about themselves, or they do not open up at all. An evil person does not allow boundaries to dictate the way they interact with you. They demand to be heard, and they demand your attention when they want it. Toxic people will never respect your privacy as information is power.

They want to know how they can control and hurt you.  Even once you have kicked them out of your life, they will do whatever it takes to force themselves back in. They will not respect your desires or intentions, because to them, you are inherently less important than themselves.

15. They Enjoy Hurting Others and Do It with Humor

It takes a fair amount of character strength and confidence to be able to laugh at yourself. If you were to be honest with yourself, you would probably admit you do not like being teased. Most people would rather have others compliment them as opposed to teasing. No one wants their mistakes and insufficiencies held up and worse, laughed at. But, we take it.

We laugh it off because at the end of the day to be human is to err. There are times when you can’t take life seriously. Everyone needs to laugh once in a while. And at times, it can be quite cathartic to laugh at oneself. There is a fine line here though.

It is important not to use humor as a weapon to harm people. But this is exactly what toxic people do. It has already been said they enjoy seeing others in pain. They intentionally hurt and insult other people. And there are times when they use humor to do just that.

This is a particularly menacing way to hurt people as evil individuals are able to brush it off as a joke. When they utter those words that they were just joking, they have robbed a person of their right to feel hurt. A person who is hurt by what was supposedly meant as a joke is accused of taking things too seriously or being too sensitive.

Toxic people thus use humor to flip the situation on its head. The onus no longer lies on them but rather on the hurt individual who is being overly dramatic. These people are now not liable for any blame because they were apparently just joking.

These are the 15 ways to know when you are dealing with an evil or toxic person. Did you recognize any of these traits in someone you know? If so, keep your eyes open to avoid manipulation and deceit.