This is a hard rule to follow. You should be cautious and do your best to say “no.” Remember, you never need a reason when it comes to saying “no,” as this is a statement all by itself. You’ll probably want to take care of the people around you, especially your siblings, parents, and best friends. You can help them if they are genuinely struggling, but the best step to take is to tell them “no.”
The truth is, once the money is gone, you will not get it back. They will not pay you back because you didn’t directly earn money, so why should they have to pay you back? No matter how kind a person is, knowing that their sibling has money can change them as they now feel entitled to a portion of the money you and they didn’t earn. Protect your money so you don’t need to struggle and find a way to help people without loosing too much of your protection.
Rich people still have obligations. In fact, these responsibilities are the same as everyone else. They need to pay their bills, taxes, take care of their children, pets, and overall obligations. While many people who have money will pay for other people to do certain things, like clean their home, it’s still their responsibility to ensure their staff does their job.
The reality is, if you let go of your obligations, you’ll give yourself a bad name. No amount of money is worth giving yourself a bad reputation or name. Plus, most of the time, you’re not the only person affected by your poor decisions. Also, if you stop caring about your responsibilities, what are you teaching your children?
You might not always have a choice, but it is possible that you can choose to receive all the money at once or over time. For example, you can receive your inheritance through a trust where an amount is given to you annually or every six months. If you are given a choice, you need to select the option to receive the money over some time.
Selecting this will help you in many ways. You won’t want to spend all the money at once because you won’t receive a large chunk in one sum. Therefore, you’re more likely to spend your money wisely and invest it. Furthermore, you won’t have a giant target on your back as people will realize that you don’t get all the cash at once, so they won’t see you as rich.
It’s been discussed previously and you’ve heard this phrase countless times; money changes people. This doesn’t just include friends and family, but also you. The fact is you won’t even realize the changes until it’s too late and you have lost essential friends or find yourself broke and understanding all the mistakes you made.
Losing sight of who you are when it comes to your wealth is easy to do. Even if you think you will never fall into this trap, it can happen to you and anyone else. This doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you someone who doesn’t understand how to handle money. This is why finding a financial advisor who is reputable and helpful is one of the first steps you should take. Along with that, you can find someone you trust to help keep you in line, but it’s up to you to listen to them.
This is different from your plan of action if you come into wealth. Establishing a monthly budget includes your bills, income, and anything else that you must pay or receive. You might not think that you need a budget now that you are rich. But without a budget, you’ll start spending too much money, you won’t save what you should, and you won’t think about how you are acting with your money. This can turn into a disaster and you could find yourself broke within a few years.
When you establish a budget, you’re following a plan that allows you to stay on top of your wealth, pay off your debt, and follow through on paying your bills so you can continue to live comfortably and help your children when it comes to going out on their own. One crucial factor to remember when you are creating a budget is inflation. Prices will continue to rise, and your interest or income might not grow with it. Protect yourself by staying one step ahead within your budget.
Self-discipline is not the easiest characteristic to learn and seems nearly impossible when you don’t start learning from your childhood. In fact, one reason people struggle when it comes to handling money is that they don’t have a strong sense of self-discipline. They think they can spend while they have the money and then wonder where it went once they find their bank account low.
There are many techniques you can use to boost your self-discipline so you are more likely to save instead of spend. For example, leave $20 in a place that is easy for you to grab and spend and see how long you can leave it before you spend it. Then, note what you spent it on like groceries or something you didn’t need. Continue to do this to keep the money in that location longer than next time.
You want to keep things simple. Even if you’re a millionaire in a small community and can’t hide your newfound wealth for an extended period, you want to be cautious of the actions you take with people, especially when they ask you for money.
For example, you receive a call from a local nonprofit asking for a sizable donation to start a new project to help children in your area. You’re supportive of this charitable and the children, but you don’t understand the new program. Don’t jump and say you will help because your heart tells you to. Instead, set up a meeting with the director, yourself, and your financial advisor. Meet with your advisor before you sit down with everyone so you can come up with questions and understand how much to invest in this project.
Those are some scary words for anyone to hear – that they need to get a lawyer. Usually, you hear these words because you are in some form of legal trouble, but this is not the case. Obtaining a lawyer as soon as you become rich simply protects you from the damage some people will try. For example, if someone comes to you with a business proposition, you always want to talk to your financial and legal advisors and probably aim toward saying “no.” It’s a lot easier to say this one word when you have people with authority backing you up.
Another reason is that your lawyer can start to prepare you against anyone that is trying to scam or sue you for any reason. They can advise you on your rights and the best course of legal action to take, if necessary. Furthermore, they will help you when it comes to your taxes by explaining the laws and direct you to the best tax representation.
It’s a famous story for many people. They become rich suddenly, whether through celebrity status, gambling, or inheritance, and find themselves in the arms of another person. This new person is someone different that offers you a different view. Now that you are rich, people are throwing themselves at you. They will find you when you are weak, and the temptation is expensive.
In fact, the temptation often ends in a divorce and a bitter custody battle. Plus, because you received that money while married, your spouse is entitled to half of it. Of course, this might not be the case if it is inheritance, but that depends on state law. The fact is, you can ruin more than you ever imagined by letting someone open their arms up to you. All this person wants is your money while your spouse doesn’t see you as a dollar sign.
Above all, no matter how much money you receive and what you do with it, the best way to make sure you don’t find yourself struggling financially again is to play it safe. This includes finding a financial advisor, and you can trust and talk to them about how to set up investment accounts, savings accounts, and how to pay off your debt.
Don’t jump into anything because you have money and can spend it without overthinking about where your money is going for a little while. This can quickly turn into a big mistake that causes you more trouble than the money was worth. Furthermore, you want to remain the humble and caring person that you are. Always think about your actions and how they are affecting other people without giving all your money away.
“13 Things to Do If You Suddenly Become Filthy Rich.” Jon C. Ogg, 24/7 Wall St. January 2020.
“15 Things to Do If You Get Rich All Of A Sudden.” Emil Anton, Alux. January 2019.